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The Gifts of Acceptance
We’re taught to honor our parents. But what if your mother wasn’t exactly a model of maternal warmth and caring? What if your father wasn’t exactly a model of calm paternal strength and guidance?
Mother’s Day & Father’s Day should be celebrated everyday – why not try accepting them? As bestselling author Daniel A. Miller attests in THE GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE: Embracing People and Things as They Are(ALibrary JournalBest Wellness Book of 2018), choosing acceptance make a world of difference—in your own well-being and sense of self.
“Acceptance can be very liberating,” Miller assures. “It releases us from the shackles of the past and the anger and resentment for what they did or didn’t do for us or give us. In no longer being bound to our parents for our happiness and security, we are free to discover who we really are and who we can become.”
Daniel Miller talks about mindsets and practices to help you more fully accept, and truly honor, your parents. Among his key points:
- Process your negative feelings. Working through negative feelings towards your parents is vital to moving forward with your own life.
- Be compassionate. Like all people, parents are shaped by their experiences and circumstances. Strive to see your parents as people with their own faults and frailties
- Lower your expectations. We often expect our parents to be better than who they are and do better than they possibly can. The pressure of such unrealistic expectations often fuels feelings of resentment and disappointment. Holding our parents to high expectations, Miller makes clear, is really about our own underlying needs.
- Acknowledge your parents’ gifts to you. Celebrate the positive attributes you received from your parents. “In most cases, they are there if you are willing to look for them,” Miller promises.
DANIEL A. MILLER, JD, is the author of the bestselling Losing Control, Finding Serenity and The Gifts of Acceptance. After suffering a series of traumatic events, he began a new life journey based on letting go of control and accepting people and things as they are. In the process, he became an artist, a published poet, a champion senior tennis player, a happily married man, and a much wiser parent. He now writes and speaks about the profound benefits of letting go of control and practicing acceptance. To learn more, visit www.danielmiller.com.
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